The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read


A Beautifully Comprehensive Look At What It Might Mean To Be A Sane And Emotionally Intelligent Parent . . . Hugely Warm, Wise, Hopeful And Encouraging.Alain De Botton, Author Of Ihow Proust Can Change Your Lifeiinstant 1I Sunday Times Ibestsellerevery Parent Wants Their Child To Be Happy And Every Parent Wants To Avoid Screwing Them Up The Way Their Parents Did. But How Do You Do That?In This Absorbing, Clever, And Warm Book, Renowned Psychotherapist Philippa Perry Tells Us What Really Matters And What Behavior It Is Important To Avoidthe Vital Dos And Don’Ts Of Parenting. Her Approach Begins With Parents Themselves And Their Own Psychological Makeup And Historyand How That In Turn Influences One’S Parenting. Instead Of Mapping Out The Perfect Plan, Perry Offers A Bigpicture Look At The Elements That Lead To Good Parentchild Relationships. This Refreshing Judgementfree Book Will Help You To:Brandbull;Understand How Your Own Upbringing May Affect Your Parentingbrandbull;Accept That You Will Make Mistakes And Learn What You Can Do About Thembrandbull;Break Negative Cycles And Patternsbrandbull;Handle Your Own And Child’S Feelingsbrandbull;Understand What Different Behaviors Communicatefull Of Sage And Sane Advice, Ithe Book You Wish Your Parents Had Readi Is One Every Parent Will Want To Read And Every Child Will Wish Their Parents Had.A Pamela Dorman Booksviking Life Title



Praise for The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read:“[H]onest, warm, and judgment-free. . . this is essential for all parents, from those first expecting to empty nesters. It’s never too early or too late to improve the relationship with your children, and, as the title suggests, they’ll be glad you did.”
–Booklist (starred review)“Healing from, and learning not to perpetuate, difficult upbringings is the linchpin of this practical, self-care-centered parenting guide . . . Perry’s kind but professional tone results in a helpful manual that will appeal to new parents who want an expert on board as they take the time to be reflective in their parenting.”
–Publishers Weekly

“Accessible, compassionate.”

It is hard to read fast, not just because Perry’s text is punctuated by exercises…but because it prompts so many realisations, or insights, or clearly names things that have until now existed just beyond one’s awareness. And it provides tools, straightforward and manageable if not always easy, that can be implemented at once. I am grateful for it.
–The Guardian (UK)

About the Author

Philippa Perry has been a psychotherapist for the past twenty years. She is also a freelance writer, and a TV and radio presenter. She has worked on several documentaries, and has also written two other books, Couch Fiction, a Graphic Tale of Psychotherapy and How to Stay Sane. She lives in London with her husband, the artist Grayson Perry, and they have a grown-up daughter, Flo.

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Ideal age

9 Years and up